In the process that develops in daily life of the person, profession, various pressure layer cascade fold the ground to surrounding everybody. People repels instinctively pressure, the worry that repellent pressure brings is disturbed. Meanwhile, still a lot of people are approbated " pressure just has power " the viewpoint searchs pressure actively. So, simple ground cognizance pressure is less had been jumped over or be bigger be a mistake very more.
Psychological pressure is actually " the individual's feeling " . When the intense rate when the thing exceeded what you think what you have to answer ability, pressure was formed, so psychological pressure is a kind of more subjective feeling. The main source of ceaseless heighten is in psychological pressure to agree with feeling inadequacy at one the individual's ego, expression comes out even if self-confidence is not worth. So long-term excessive pressure originates for the most part of the individual " psychological action " .
Build stable self-confident capacity, can let us be cast off effectively " pessimism anticipates " psychological interference, can undertake to its importance reason accepts or reject, the size of the actuating pressure that active him adjusting control needs.
The countermeasure that controls actuating pressure has a lot of arrangement, but core is to solve self-confident problem, basic approach promotes ego self-identity to spend namely. Insist to use " do not lose oneself " the pressure that idea will come to cope with inner ego suspicion to cause. Ego self-identity is termless to his admit, incorporate can be approbated namely and admit the entire character of oneself, include faulty part. Ego self-identity is different from a watch shallow find oneself is good, both distinction: Find oneself is good it is to become when the job, life is very great, you are met find oneself is good; When the life is not the job, suitable, you are met find oneself is bad. Ego self-identity is won't negative because of temporarily gain and loss oneself, won't get the control of the mood easily, no matter be in daily life, job,smoothly not smoothly still to oneself one is approbated objectively, won't suffer the effect of external environment. Ego self-identity is one kind is opposite the individual psychology balance, true health that moves development with organism humorous, dynamic concept.
Can agree with oneself when us when, we will fear overly to fail no longer, fear overly to err no longer, do not suffer the left and right sides that others evaluates easily; Can adopt a problem to answer way and not be a mood should help oneself solve problem, processing to means human difference; Can dare to assume the responsibility of him duty limits, is not ground of a state of extreme nervousness protects self interest blindly.
Want to accomplish ego self-identity, basically depend on the self-awareness with independent nurturance. We live in the society that makes by network of the person's thinking, affection, want to do the person with an oriented ego, need takes out enough courage, remove the interference of inactive suggestion.
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